Have you ever gone to a coffee shop and notice an attractive girl you wanted to meet but didn’t?
Do you feel like it’s weird to meet women during the day because you’re not sure how?
It’s actually much easier and less scary than you think.
Let me explain.
According to most women, they have a fantasy of being approached by a confident guy as she’s going about her daily business. As if “it just happened” the way it’s depicted in romantic movies.
Unfortunately, that’s not what most guys do.
They limit themselves to meeting girls at the bar where alcohol is present to compensate for their lack of confidence and social skills.
I could relate because I’ve done it myself.
￼￼￼Similar to most single guys, meeting attractive women is also a priority for me. But because I didn’t know any better, I did what everybody else did.
My pay check was spent at the bar, buying girls drinks just so I can meet them.
For many years, I’ve done that approach with very little success. Sure, I’d get some phone numbers. Maybe even get a few make outs while I’m out and about, but that’s as far as it went.
Not only did I have a few hundred dollars less in my bank account, none of the numbers that I got picked up. Some were not even real.
Alcohol puts you in the present moment. Once you’re drunk, you’re inhibition is lowered and you’re focus on what you want right there and then.
That’s when you make bad decisions and I definitely made a lot of them.
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A different process creates a different outcome. Because I wasn’t very happy with the result I was getting, it made sense to try a different method.
Since I love drinking coffee anyway, I wanted to figure out how to meet women at coffee shops.
To my surprise, it was easier than I thought. In fact, they’re actually a lot more open to it. Because we were able to have a real conversation, I was able to have a deeper connection with women that I met.
￼￼￼As a result, I was able to go on dates with very attractive women more often. Not only that, I didn’t have to hang around bars that often. My wallet was thankful too.
Since then, I’ve coached hundreds of men to meet women during the day.
The tips I’m about to share with you are directly from my coaching program.
Implement these and you’ll experience results right away. Here are some proven strategies on how to get phone numbers while getting coffee during the day.
5 Tips To Meet Women At Coffee Shops
What you’re looking for here is both quality and quantity. Make sure you pick coffee shops located in:
• A trendy neighbourhood
• A high end mall
This way, you’ll get a consistent traffic of attractive women in one place. This approach is very efficient since you don’t have to do a lot of walking around.
All you have to do is sit, work on your stuff and wait.
Proximity Is Power
When you walk into a coffee shop of your choice, scope out the room. Get a feel for the vibe. Look at the existing clientele in there.
￼￼￼Make sure you bring a book, a laptop or something you’re working on.
Remember, you’re going in there for yourself first, meeting women is just a part of your day.
Do you see someone you want to meet?
If the answer is yes:
• Pick a table and situate yourself close to her.
If the answer is no:
• Choose a central spot where more people can see you.
Observe the type of people walking in there and give it a bit of time. If it’s not your type of crowd, pick a different place. The key to make this work is to make it as natural as possible.
Allow Her To See You
Whether she’s standing in line to get a cup of coffee or sitting down and reading a book, give her a chance to see you first before you make your move.
Make eye contact and smile right away. You want her to know you’re there.
The last thing you want to do is spook her. Don’t put women on the spot.
Break the Ice Immediately
Approach from an angle within her peripheral vision.
That means don’t come from behind. Remember, you’re in a public setting so avoid making her feel uncomfortable.
Something that always works for me is when I asked them for a small favour. Say something like…
“Excuse me, I’m just going to get coffee, would it be cool if you keep an eye on my stuff for a moment?”
When you come back, it’s a lot easier to introduce yourself.
The longer you wait, the more you’ll talk yourself out of approaching. Your mind will start to come up with a hundred reasons why you shouldn’t do it. Don’t over think it.
Just get up and go. The faster you get going, the less nervous you’ll be to talk to her.
Listen And Relate
Because you’re in a public setting and a lot of people are around, you need to be as casual about your approach as possible.
Remember, she’s going about her day and not expecting to meet someone. If she seems nervous, that’s because she probably is. ￼￼
Keep the vibe fun and friendly by making more statements. Avoid asking too many questions early on.
A good formula to remember is:
Observe the Situation + Make a Statement + Share a Relevant Story + Ask a Question
Just come in with the intent of seeing if there’s a fit for both of you. If not, that’s okay as well.
Understand that rejection is an event, it’s not a person.
The more you do it, the more you’ll get better at it.
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